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Thread title basicly sums it up quite well already. Since I recently got into a discussion about this topic with a friend I'd be quite interested in some more opinions.
I'm talking about cases were the partners live at least 3h away from each other. So do you guys think this kind of relationship has a future? Or is it just a waste of time in your eyes? Please try to explain your decision and maybe back it up with one or two nice reasons ^^

Depends.

Mainly on how much in love and connected the two people are, how much they can stay in contact while distanced from each other, and how long the distance will last. Having been deployed twice I've seen relationships crumble and fall apart, and I've also seen how relations are tested during men's deployment only to be proven true and strong when the soldier returns home.

A three hour drive doesn't seem that bad to me. Maybe I'm biased having seen distance relationships where the lovers are half a world away. My real question is - if the two people love each other so much, why wouldn't they work on being together as fast as possible? In my opinion, real love can overcome any issue, monetary or otherwise. To me it sounds like the partners aren't head over heals in love with each other if they're content with being three hours apart.

Dang, didn't notice there was a 'Depends' until I'd already voted.

Anywho, I'd say "Yes", with a big ol' asterisk next to the word. Why the asterisk, you ask? Well, it's simple: the success or failure of an LDR is contingent upon the people in it.

It'd work out like any relationship, so long as the two of them worked into moving together, or at least nearby, as soon as humanly possible.

That's basicly the opinion I'm going with. I saw alot of LDRs fall apart already and I admit the times were it actually works out have been alot more rare to view but still.. some people just manage to keep it going and seem to be perfectly fine with it. So my vote goes to "depends" too, I'm optimistic.. if the two of them really love each other enough they'll find a way.



Moving together is easily said. But with growing distance between the two people there's a high chance it also means loosing contact to all your friends, family, working / school place etc.. for at least one of them. In case of moving to another country it means you'd have to build up a whole new existance, meaning it's not such an easy decision to make as it may seem at first.

I guess I didn't take that in mind. Moving far, far away is pretty common around where I live, because if you actually want to get anywhere in life you won't by staying here. You could always move someplace in the middle. People will still visit you. It's as hard a situation for anyone that's moving, really, except you get the added bonus of a companion as a 'prize'.

Edit - Changed some grammatical errors.

My brother's together with a girl who lives in Canada who he met online. They've been together for about a year now and he's even gone to visit her once recently. She's also coming down here. I really wouldn't be surprised if they got married.

I agree, three hours isn't really much of "long distance." But I'm from Nebraska. Everything's a long drive away. If it's just three hours' drive, then it's easy, albeit expensive, to see each other on the weekends.

I know from experience that I can't do long distance, but that's me. I know people who've had the relationship not work out, and people who it has worked out for. If you've got the temperament that permits you to be away from your loved one for months and months at a time, then you've got a decent chance to succeed. I learned, after I brought my long distance girlfriend up to visit, that I'm not wired that way, so things didn't work out for me. I'm with Graham. It's all about the people involved and the nature of the distance.

Man, this topic reminds me of a great song. Apart by Dangeorus Muse. It's actually a song about a long distance relationship. :P

I say yes, i'm actually in a realtionship with someone that lives 2 states away from me.

That had better not be mine!

I dont have one, shes about, oh TWO doors down... I DO know someone with either a 3 state or 3km, mabye 30km, relation in my Fleet...

Mabye long for me would help my weak mind... Yes I am weak in that area, plus no real contact for 2 years! Wahhh!

I'd have to go yes, and with my brother as an example. We go to a university about 4 hours away from home -- where his girlfriend lives. He goes down every other weekend or so to spend time with her (read: the entire weekend), and that seems to be working out fine.

I feel I should mention that they've been going out for almost 3 years, so it would be kind of stupid for them to break up just because he went away to college.

But, I suppose thing might be different if he lived a couple thousand miles away instead of a couple hundred -- gas is getting pretty expensive.

Like many said, it depends upon the people...but is it possible? Absolutely!
Why so sure, you may ask? 'Cause I've lived it...

I met my gal online nigh on 4 years ago - and we both lived on opposite sides of the continent - a good 2,500 miles distance...after only a few visits, one per year or so, I bit the bullet and moved across the country to take the "long-distance" out of the relationship, and things have been great ever since. I've been here for two years now...
X3

So, yes, it is possible...IF the two parties get to visit every once in a while...and IF they are both strong enough to go long periods of time apart without cheating...and IF one of them eventually makes the big leap and moves out to be with the other...

Those are quite a few "if"s...but possible, it is...
;3

You have to learn to trust... but not be stupid...

Living in hawaii, I once had a LDR with someone in PA (ocean and half a nation seperated us)... Long story short I trusted her with all my heart, but found out I was stupid to not see some key problems in our relationship after about 7 months... Now I barely can trust anyone...

Moral: If they were really loyal to one another and trust was never ever taken lightly... Then yeah, love can cross massive distances...

Depends how long the distance thingie is supposed to last. If anything more than say 1-3 years, I will seriously doubt that it will work out. Shorter ones usually works out tho.

well I'd have to say yes, long distance relationships can work if done properly and if you both get to see each other occasionally.