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yeah i got a few questions but let me lay down the setting. Just got off the phone with some friends of myne whom are together and have been together for more than 3 or 4 years now. I acutally kept them together for the first few months even though i had a huge crush on my lady friend and could have easily done nothing and ask her out myself. well she just found out that he has been talking to another chick for a few weeks now and that he was thinking of cheating and she was sending him naked pics and calling him and he her except he didnt send naked pics but he still was thinking about it and had let it continue for awhile. my friend found out and she is understandably pissed. I have no clue how to help or what to do. This couple became my two best friends ive ever had and I feel like i should help or do something but im just kind of in shock right now and im drawing a blank.i dont know if i should be pissed or anything. Advice is would be helpful.

Here's what you gotta do. Tell him that she knows, if he doesn't know already, slap him on the head, and tell him to talk to the girl to try and salvage things...Or, tell him that he's just ruining his life and he should do whatever he wants, and take the good girl for yerself. Whatever works better for you.

You may make suggestions but do NOT under any circumstance tell him what to do.

QFT. He needs to get his priorities straight. He either wants to be with her, in which case he has to stay faithful, or he doesn't and then he can go be with that other chick, but you can't have your cake and eat it too. I'd suggest to him to sit down and think about what he really wants, and suggest a few possible courses of action, but as Luca said, don't -tell- him what to do. He has to make the final decision.

Personally, I think people who want to cheat are selfish and don't deserve their partner (if you don't love your partner enough to stay faithful, then there's no bloody point in staying with them.)

Only offer help/ suggestions if it is Requested. Otherwise you are going to stick your nose into something that will get it cut off. And don't pick sides if you want to be friends with both of them at the end of it if they end up not lasting through this.

Stay out of it completely because getting involved will more then likely make things worse for one and better for the other.

Let them work things out on their own and support whatever decision he/she makes.

And no, that's not what I would do, but it's probably what should be done. I have a penchant to make the guy feel absolutely miserable. Example, when my sister found out her husband was gambling away her savings under her nose and hiding the debt by taking out $5000 loans from those damned "Cash Now Pay Tomorrow" loan shark places... well aside from the fact that I used what passwords I knew of his to freeze all of his poker accounts, and to scramble his e-mails, some minor acts of vandalism took place.

i.e., listen to the sane people.

Take her on a data :)

Let the loser live his own life ! :twisted:

at least it did sound smart when i'm writing it......

Except they are both his best friends and would like to keep it that way and by screwing over the guy for the girl isn't really the best path...

that sounds right i interfeared with one like your man adn i got compltely screwed over neither of them would speak to me.
the end result was them breaking up